Hmmm, well, why does anyone ever make a bad move? :-)
Most people that make the J-Group do so because they don't know that it is dead, or don't know that they can get ko with the straight J-group. Or they make it in a situation where the straight J group is not available, eg:
If the J-group lives or dies according to sente, but the straight-J with at a can only be killed with ko, why ever make a J-group? Why not always decend to make the straight J?
By and large, I agree with you. But this is only after we know the results for the J-group. The proof of this "theorem" is nontrivial and requires some requisite knowledge to understand.
By the way, the J-group with hane is also known to be alive. This result is used in the 4-4 point double kakari tenuki joseki, see joseki-related life-and-death example 4.
If the attacker plays first, basic J-group without hane means death, while basic J-group with hane means unconditional life.
The straight J-group with hane deserves its own section. If I am not wrong, Black stands to lose two stones to ensure unconditional life.
I think Black can kill straight-J unconditionally.